Link O-the Middle of the Week Version

by burningbushes on March 9, 2010

in Life Lessons

With my erratic schedule the past few weeks, I’ve missed some link ups to sites and posts I’ve enjoyed.  I thought you might like a change up…so I’m sending these out today and hopefully will have more in my reader by this weekend to share as well.

Defensive People are Prideful-My husband has directed me towards this site of short, powerful messages before.  And just this week, he pointed me to this new video, developed from a pastor’s sermon on defensiveness.  Being defensive is perhaps one of my greatest struggles and sins.  This 4 minute sermon really challenged me and could do the same for you.

Don’t Fall Asleep while Praying-I love this post about ideas to stay awake (and focused, hopefully), while praying in the early mornings (or any time that you feel sleepy).

Don’t Ask about our Meetings-I love this pastor’s take on missional church and have really enjoyed several of his books.  (I introduced You Can Change to you all last summer).  This post is at the heart of my desire for church…one that is less centered on formal meetings and more centered around growing and challenging personal relationships.

You Will Rise Up in the End- What a beautiful reminder that all these challenges will one day be beneath us…those that are in Christ-because of His victory.

{ 0 comments }

The Problem with Self Confidence

by burningbushes on March 8, 2010

in Life Lessons

After a few weeks of late nights, late mornings, and lack of routine, I’m attempting to get back on track with Scripture reading and some dedicated time to learning about the One who should be my first love.

To do so, I’m going to try to read and think on Philippians this week.  Today, I was struck by the call of God in chapter 3 to put no confidence in the flesh.  If you’re anything like me, then you’ve grown up constantly barraged by the idea that self confidence is vital to success in this life.


But, Paul says otherwise:

‘For we are the circumcision, who worship God in the Spirit, rejoice in Christ Jesus, and put no confidence in the flesh.  Philippians 3:3

NO confidence?  Really?  My mind goes to all the things that give me confidence in this life:

Family and Heritage-It’s easy to find pride and security in knowing my parents, their accomplishments, and my greater family’s heritage and history.

Wealth-I’m certainly not in the upper class strata of our country, but I can find myself confident because of the security and comfort provided by money and the things it can buy me.

Religion-In the weaker moments, when family or wealth or home seem to fail me in boosting self confidence, I can lean toward my religious activities.  If I start to waver in feeling good about myself, I can always turn to good deeds, church attendance or involvement, or past ministry successes for encouragement.

Education and Career-Though I can certainly find others who are better educated and more gainfully employed, I still tend towards defining myself by my intellectual or money earning capabilities.

Home and country-When I read about struggles in far off lands or even in ‘bad neighborhoods,’ I often find myself comforted to know I live in the US and have the ability to live in ’safer’ places.  Though not super patriotic or political, I can still find myself full of confidence based on my nationality and language.

Paul made a list in Philippians 3 of all his reasons for self confidence.  And though he said he had MORE reasons to be self confident than anyone else, he was counting all those things as a loss.


I have to ask myself this morning?  Can I do that?  Can I be thankful for all these blessings God has given me (family, wealth, education, etc.) and yet refuse to find my confidence in those blessings.

  1. Could Christ’s love for me far surpass the love I can receive from family, husband, children?  Could the Father’s acceptance of me as His child be the only source of confidence I need, were I to lose or be betrayed by my earthly family?
  2. Could the great riches of Christ’s character and person placed within me be so precious to me that I find more security there than in any wealth I might acquire on this earth?
  3. Could the acceptance of Christ and His conforming me to His image satisfy me even if no human were to recognize my religious deeds and spiritual maturity?
  4. Could knowing Christ and being taught His wisdom be more important to me than degrees of education or success and esteem in the workplace and among peers?
  5. Could the comfort of being ‘at home’ with Christ and the promise of His eternal kingdom give me a sense of safety and assurance even in some of the darkest and dangerous areas of the world?

Questions like these and passages like this one in Philippians remind me that even in times of crazy schedules, I must be daily (hourly) be looking at Christ, learning from Him, and leaning on Him.  Without constant reminders of His beauty, His strength, His character, I’m certainly doomed to be full of self confidence and void of Christ confidence.

What parts of your flesh are most powerful at tempting you toward self confidence?   What practices and thoughts lead you towards Christ confidence?

{ 1 comment }

Blame it on the Rain

by burningbushes on February 24, 2010

in Personal Disciplines

I won’t lie and say I wasn’t one of the fans fooled by Milli Vanilli back in the day.  I mean, who could believe that despite their stylish look, awesome hair, and peppy dancing, they couldn’t actually sing any better than I do (okay, well a little better than I do).

Back in the day when they were a HIT, I was in love with ‘Blame It on the Rain.’  I have no idea why-perhaps the music video made me feel romantic or hip or something.  The chorus of the song is great:

Blame it on the rain that was falling, Blame it on the stars that shine at night.

Whatever you do, don’t put the blame on you, Blame it on the rain, yeah, yeah.

My Temptation to Blame It on the Rain

I’m not in the same situation as the song’s subject, but I must say that in my own times of strain, something in me repeats, ‘Whatever you do, don’t put the blame on you.’ Something in me wants to take all the credit for the good and none of the credit for the bad.

Just yesterday, I allowed my children to play with a breakable play tea set, instructing them to be extremely careful.  They were, and played well for a few minutes.  My little girl then stacked up the cups very carefully on the edge of the coffee table. An hour or so later, I was cleaning up the room and decided to adjust the furniture…not thinking to move the tea cups off the edge of the table.  CRASH!  went the cups and I looked down to see several of them in pieces.

My little girl came running…’What happened to my tea set?  Who broke them?  Did my brother break them?  Can I see what happened?’  Though my little one is just that-little, I suddenly found myself in my familiar defensive mode. I wanted to say, ‘Well, they fell off the table because you stacked them so high and so closely to the edge.’  I was ready to blame it on her or the rain or anyone but myself.

Thankfully, this was one of the redeemed moments of life and I held my tongue for a minute and then took the blame that was mine.  ‘I saw your cups stacked but was not as careful as I should have been and accidentally knocked them over.’ She immediately calmed down and said, ‘Oops, mommy, you made a mistake.’

Jesus’ Thoughts about Blame

The fact that it was difficult to take my share of the blame with a three year old is scary.  Because I know it’s about ten times as difficult to do so with my husband or family or friends. Jesus didn’t seem to have a problem with the fact that everyone has some share of the blame for the sin and brokenness in the world.  BUT, He did have a strong opinion about how we should view it all.

“Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.” Matthew 7:3-5

After taking my part of the blame, which was a large part, of course.  I was able to explain to my daughter that it’s probably not wise to stack breakable tea cups close to the edge of a table.  She agreed and the ordeal was over (besides her tattling to daddy about the incident over dinner). I’m not expecting all breaks and crashes in my relationships to resolve so quickly, but it does seem that if and when I’m willing to first inspect and confess the large plank I’m carrying, the more likely real resolution with others will come.

Don’t Blame, Just Repent

I really wish Milli Vanilli would’ve been the real deal.  But, I guess with songs like ‘Blame it on the Rain’ and ‘I Want Money, Lots and Lots of Money’, their lyrics weren’t necessarily pointing me, or anyone else, in the right direction.

Last night, thinking about my need to constantly stop and repent of MY PART in the brokenness, I was drawn away from the dancing twins and towards Derek Webb who sings a great song about repentance, called I Repent.

‘i repent of judging by a law that even i can’t keep
of wearing righteousness like a disguise
to see through the planks in my own eyes’

Your Turn

How have you seen the plank and speck principle work out in your own life?  How would life be different for you if you did more plank removal everyday?

{ 1 comment }

A Lesson from Tigger

by burningbushes on February 22, 2010

in Life Lessons

In my home, we enjoy a lot of the old Winnie the Pooh stories-the original stories where no one seems to know how to spell and Pooh Bear is obsessed with one thing-honey.  Tigger is one of our favorite characters as he seems to bring life to every page with his bouncing and lisping and adventuresome spirit. Nevertheless, as we read, I can’t help but notice Tigger’s infamous phrase:

‘THAT’S WHAT TIGGERS DO BEST.’

It would be understandable if Tigger said this about one or two particular skills.  But, it seems that nearly every story we read about Tigger includes his boasting that he can do something-the particular something everyone wants to do-the BEST.

Of course the story often proves him wrong as he gets himself into trouble by biting off more than he can chew or bothering all his buddies in the process of being ‘the BEST’. The truth, of course, is that Tigger does not do all these things ‘the BEST.’

  • Pooh is much better at eating honey and being kind
  • Rabbit is much better at gardening and organizing
  • Roo is better at hill bouncing
  • Even Eeyore is better at carrying things

Reading about Tigger’s boasting has reminded me of my own desire to be the ‘Best All Around’ (do you remember that award in high school?)  Though I can easily laugh with my kids at Tigger’s antics, it’s not quite as easy to laugh at myself when I realize that I’m not the best in a certain area…and maybe not in any area.

This division of skills and gifts among characters is not just something the creators of Winnie the Pooh dreamed up, but started with God’s design.  I’ve been reading about the BODY that God designed in Romans 12 and 1 Corinthians 12.  Just like the human body, He’s put in lots of parts that are all designed to carry out different functions.  And each part is vital to the LIFE of the BODY.

Sometimes, I must admit, I feel a bit like Piglet, the weak one that’s slowing everyone else down.  Or, like Eeyore, who can’t even seem to keep my tail on straight.  But, the best part of the Winnie the Pooh stories are the endings…when everyone is content in their own skin and doing their part to the best of their ability.

  • Pooh is sharing his honey
  • Rabbit is letting go a bit and sharing his garden’s bounty
  • Piglet is making everyone laugh
  • Owl is telling stories of his aunt or uncle or some estranged family member
  • and Tigger is using his BEST skills to entertain or provide a new adventure for the group

Life in the body should be like this-where we are all content to be who God made us to be, certain of our calling and eager to use it in LOVE among the others God has called.  In the body of Christ, I have to remind myself that Jesus said we’d be known in the world, not by being THE BEST, but by loving one another—different as we all may be.

How have you discovered your role in the body of Christ?  Have you experienced times like Pooh’s stories, where individuals are fulfilling their roles in the body?  What do you think made this possible?

{ 2 comments }

Link-O-Wake Me Up When the Snow Melts Version

by burningbushes on February 20, 2010

in Life Lessons

The sun has been out for a few days here and the snow is starting to melt.  So, I’m thinking of flowers blooming and challenged to love and live the gospel in ’spring’ like ways.  Here are a few posts I’ve enjoyed over the past few weeks.  Happy weekend.  Hope it’s warm in your ‘neck of the woods.’

Wake me Up When Winter Ends-this is a post from last February and as I noticed some buds on our cherry tree outside, I couldn’t help but think about how God grows our roots in the cold, dry seasons so that the fruit will be that much greater come springtime.

How to Make Your Work Last Forever-I’ve recently subscribed to this blog and find Ann’s writing to be inspirational and personal.  She writes very poetically but in a manner that’s approachable and understandable.  I have been thinking a great deal about the need to do all things with love and Ann’s account of her family’s circumstances teaches the lesson so beautifully.

Our Whole Life as Christians-this is a great quote about the fact that the Christian walk is one of a constant return to the gospel.  I love this picture of life with Jesus.

Husband and Wife-this is a great simple quote about what husbands and wives are created to do for one another through Christ.  The simplicity of the words has stuck with me through the past week though the message continues to challenge me.

{ 0 comments }

5 Ways to Hope Against Hope

by burningbushes on February 19, 2010

in Scripture Says That?

Yesterday, I read in Romans 4 about Abraham and his God-how this everyday man trusted in a God who ‘gives life to the dead and CALLS THOSE THINGS THAT DO NOT EXIST AS THOUGH THEY DID.’

I was challenged to read that Abraham, against all hope, in hope believed…even though his body was as good as dead, he believed that God would make a nation from him and his dying wife, Sarah.

As I read, I couldn’t help but take inventory of the IMPOSSIBLE promises for which I was trusting.  I must admit the list was short.

So, here are 5 things I’ve taken from Abraham’s story to encourage us all to hope against hope.

5 Ways

1Read Scripture and Listen. It’s hard to think up things to hope for or believe in if I’m not REGULARLY exposed to them.  Scripture is the place for me to hear God tell me what He’s up to and what ‘impossible’ things He wants to do.  Without being regularly in Scripture, I find myself content with the everyday routines, my typical sin patterns, and the flow of the ‘natural.’

2Pray for Help to Believe it’s True. I love to read how Abraham stopped throughout his journey to pray, to build an altar, to call on the Lord.  The journey was long and he kept looking to God for help in believing that what He promised would indeed be fulfilled.

3Start with Yourself and then Look Around. Throughout Abraham’s journey, God worked on Abraham’s fears and doubts.  But, God also did a work in Sarah, his wife, in Lot, his nephew, and even in the pagan rulers he bumped into along the way.  As we start to hope for God’s work in our own character and lives, it seems that His work in us will naturally flow out into His work for others as well.

4Take Note. I’m not sure if Abraham had a journal and a pen, but it seems God gave him plenty of landmarks to remind him of the promises.  Abraham built altars of remembrance, and God linked His promises to the stars in the sky and then to the sand on the ground.  Abraham had to hang on to these promises through some tough times, but each and every night, he could look up to the sky and be reminded of what was to come.

5Pray for Patience. Scripture says Abraham was 75 years old when God called him, and he was 99 years old when God finally said that Isaac would be born within the coming year.  A quarter of a century passed before Abraham saw even the FIRST seed of God’s promise with his own eyes.  When I read that God is going to form love or joy or self control in me (or others around me), I want to see that fruit today. But Abraham’s story is a reminder that God works with different clocks and often times, it seems that his run a little slower than ours.

I want to believe and hope for impossible things.  I want to believe that I can bear the fruit described in Galatians 5, and that my family and my friends can too.  I want to believe that some of my friends that are far from Christ will be brought near.  And I want the list of these wants to grow.  To do so, I think I need to be classmates with Abraham for a while and learn more from his journey…how he was FULLY CONVINCED that GOD HAD POWER TO DO WHAT HE HAD PROMISED.

Your Turn

In what challenges are you hoping against hope in your own life?  What lesson from Abraham’s story hits closest to home for you?

{ 2 comments }

Alarm Clock…Redeemed

by burningbushes on February 17, 2010

in Everday...Redeemed

I know that some people are morning people and some people are night owls and some people…well, it’s best to hang out with them in the middle of the day.  As for me and my husband, I’d say we’re morning people.

Getting out of bed before the toddlers do is quite vital to the sanity and happiness of our household (at least history proves this to be true).  I need time to wake up, drink some coffee, and read some Scripture (and hopefully pray too) before I see little hands and feet-precious as they are-begging for breakfast and hugs and story time.

Knowing this necessity, I still find it challenging to wake up when the alarm goes off.  Especially in the winter months-it’s cold, it’s dark, and it’s oh so much more cozy under the blankets.  When the alarm first beeps or I hear my husband roll out of bed (whichever comes first), I must admit that the thoughts in my head are rarely pleasant.  Some go something like this:

  • ‘I sure could use one more hour of sleep.’
  • ‘Oh no, another full day of cold and ice and toddlers.’
  • ‘Can’t I have one day OFF of work?’

I’ve been thinking about ways to wake up a bit more joyful…thoughts to think or songs to hear that would push away the dread of the day and bring in a greater eagerness to hurry downstairs and find the words God has written for me that day.

So, I’m thinking through memorizing a few of these verses, with the hopes that they will come to mind when I hear the ‘beep, beep, beep, beep.’
Psalm 59:16-17
But I will sing of your strength, in the morning I will sing of your love; for you are my fortress, my refuge in times of trouble. O my Strength, I sing praise to you; you, O God, are my fortress, my loving God.

Psalm 90:14
Satisfy us in the morning with your unfailing love, that we may sing for joy and be glad all our days.

Psalm 143:7-10
Answer me quickly, O LORD; my spirit fails.  Do not hide your face from me or I will be like those who go down to the pit. Let the morning bring me word of your unfailing love, for I have put my trust in you. Show me the way I should go,for to you I lift up my soul.
Rescue me from my enemies, O LORD, for I hide myself in you. Teach me to do your will, for you are my God; may your good Spirit lead me on level ground.

This is just a start.  Even as I write, I’m thinking that I could also have a song or hymn to think on as I go to sleep and then to try and remember as I wake up.  Getting up early doesn’t equal holiness or more enjoyment of God.  But for me, it is the time when such things are MOST POSSIBLE. And so, I want to work hard to feel a little more joy and excitement when the clock strikes and it’s time to pull my head away from the pillow.

How do you wake up in the morning?  Any methods or practices that help you rise with joy instead of dread?

{ 1 comment }

How Deep the Father’s Love for Us

by burningbushes on February 15, 2010

in Life Lessons

Cause for Alarm

One early morning last week, I was dressing my son and discovered an unusual bruise.  It was unusual enough to cause a bit of worry.  And so, after calling the doctor and waiting for a return call, I conducted a quick Google search (not recommended for mothers who could tend towards overreacting).  A few very scary descriptions later, I was thankful to hear my phone buzzing with a call from the nurse.  She wasn’t alarmed and after a few days of watching the bruise diminish, my concerns are now fairly gone as well.

But, between the moments of discovering the mark and hearing that things will most likely be fine, I found myself filled with an amazingly high level of fear, love and hurt.  Imagining the worst, my world seemed to stop for about an hour as I considered what it would be like to lose one of my little ones.

Unfortunately, I know many of you have felt this pain, only to not be comforted by a quick call from the nurse, but to face the dark days of losing a child or watching your child through times of pain or distress.

Our Father in Heaven

Looking back on this event and others that have stirred up such extreme emotion, I’m reminded of the fact that God instructed us to call on Him as, ‘Father.’  And to consider the fact that as our Dad, He not only sees and cares for our physical struggles but most importantly for the fatal spiritual sickness from which we all suffer.  If a small bruise can cause such alarm in me, how much more has our sin and death sentence kept God’s eyes watching us through long and dark nights.

This day, as I hold my little ones tight and thank God for their health TODAY, I’m thankful for God’s cure for sin’s deathly grip and asking that I be awakened to long as intently for my children’s spiritual health as I do, in fearful moments, for their physical well-being.

HOW DEEP THE FATHER’S LOVE FOR US

How deep the Father’s love for us,
How vast beyond all measure
That He should give His only Son
To make a wretch His treasure

How great the pain of searing loss,
The Father turns His face away
As wounds which mar the chosen One,
Bring many sons to glory

Behold the Man upon a cross,
My sin upon His shoulders
Ashamed I hear my mocking voice,
Call out among the scoffers

It was my sin that held Him there
Until it was accomplished
His dying breath has brought me life
I knoww that it is finished

I will not boast in anything
No gifts, no power, no wisdom
But I will boast in Jesus Christ
His death and resurrection

Why should I gain from His reward?
I cannot give an answer
But this I know with all my heart
His wounds have paid my ransom

{ 0 comments }

How to Make a Marriage Last

by burningbushes on February 11, 2010

in Family Relationships

In honor of Valentine’s Day, the front page of the Wall Street Journal’s Personal Journal for February 9th featured a few couples who had ‘beat the odds’ and stayed married for more than a few decades (so far).  The stories were both sweet and challenging, and I couldn’t help but be impressed with a few of the tips the writer pulled from the honeymooners.

Forgiveness

Talking about her own parents that had stayed married for 46 years so far, her mom noted that their marital secret was, ‘forgiveness.’ Another couple married for 62 years, made a pact to never argue over anything that wasn’t very important.  They chose to ‘forgive’ the small differences and annoyances and ’save their battles for the bigger things.’

Selflessness

The writer calls this ‘compromise’ but it sounds to me like loving your spouse more than yourself.  One wife (married for 50 years) moved away from her children and to a warmer climate because her husband preferred it.  Years before, her husband had left the service because she was bothered that he was gone so much.

Perseverance

‘Never, ever give up’ is the way the writer states it.  In telling the story of Ozzy Osbourne and his marriage of nearly 30 years that’s survived drug and alcohol addictions and lots of hard times.  His wife stated, ‘I went into marriage thinking it was forever.  So, I was stubborn.’  Her husband showed the same level of perseverance, ‘You don’t throw in the towel at the first sign of trouble.’

Christ is the Secret for an Enduring Marriage

This Valentine’s, I’m not focusing so much on chocolates or teddy bears.  Instead, I’m asking God to renew my commitment to my husband and our marriage.  Christ may shower his common graces of forgiveness, selflessness and perseverance on those who do and do not call on His name.  But, how much more will He do so for those who DO call Him Savior?  He is the ultimate example of selflessness, forgiveness, and perseverance-and certainly has a storehouse full to give to those who ask..

So, while inspired by the writer’s article “Kiss and Tell,” I’ll now turn my attention to Christ and ask for great measures of forgiveness and perseverance for the years ahead.

What long lasting marriages have you been able to admire?  Any secrets or thoughts about what keeps them together over the years?

{ 5 comments }

‘He Says to the Snow’

by burningbushes on February 9, 2010

in Life Lessons

Waiting on the Sun

We currently live on the East coast and this winter has produced record amounts of snowfall.  In fact, I sit looking at the window, hearing that more snow is about to come any minute.

Most days, when the sky is clear, the weather is not too hot or not too cold, I must admit that I don’t think much about God’s unlimited p0wer.  But, there are the days, when large storms roll in-thunder storms, rain storms, or all these snow storms.  And I’m reminded again of the power and sovereignty of this world’s Creator.

As the snow came down hard on us this past weekend, old and seemingly strong trees fell, roads were closed, power was off.  But the hope through the storm was that the snow would eventually let up and things would return to ‘normal.’  But after more than 24, 30 hours passed, the thought occurred to me that I was presuming on the goodness of God–assuming He would eventually stop the snow and show His sun again.

Listen to the Roar of His Voice

I love this section from Job:
At this my heart pounds
and leaps from its place.
Listen! Listen to the roar of his voice,
to the rumbling that comes from his mouth.
He unleashes his lightning beneath the whole heaven
and sends it to the ends of the earth.
After that comes the sound of his roar;
he thunders with his majestic voice.
When his voice resounds,
he holds nothing back.
God’s voice thunders in marvelous ways;
he does great things beyond our understanding.
He says to the snow, ‘Fall on the earth,’
and to the rain shower, ‘Be a mighty downpour.’
So that all men he has made may know his work,
he stops every man from his labor.
Job 37:1-7

Stopped from our Labor

These are difficult days-the toddlers are eager to run and jump and slide and swing and my husband and I are eager to return to ‘business as usual.’  (Even the kids off from school in my neighborhood seem to be getting bored).

But, for today, He is once again stopping us from our own labors and reminding us of His work.  ‘Listen,’ He calls to me, ‘Listen to the roar of my voice, calling for the snow to fall to the ground.’

I’m still learning what the fear of God truly is, but I think some part of it must start with moments in the cold and dark–moments when my work stops and I am forced to wait on the mercy of God to come and shine His light and bring His warmth.

What lessons have you learned from your surroundings lately?  Any snow or cold in your area?

{ 0 comments }

HighCallingBlogs.com Christian Blog Network